peer pressure

All-In: Inclusivity

| Mary Stoffel, MOT, OTR/L

Helga Hufflepuff, the founder of Hufflepuff House and known for valuing hard work, patience, loyalty, and fairness, is also remembered for her inclusive philosophy.

While the other founders selected students based on specific talents, Helga welcomed anyone with good character and a willingness to learn; a philosophy that still defines her house.

Hufflepuffs push back against one of the most basic human instincts: the tendency to favor “our own group” and quietly dismiss everyone else. They welcome anyone, bridge social divides, and reject elitist sorting altogether.

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Raising an Independent Thinker

| Mary Stoffel, MOT, OTR/L

Out of all the Hogwarts houses, Ravenclaws are the most likely to say no (in a good way).

It’s not to be contrarian, but because their instinct is to think before agreeing. Their default mode is “evaluate first, agree second,” so a request often gets filtered through logic, independence, and precision. That internal vetting process makes them question unclear ideas, resist group pressure, and reject anything that feels sloppy or unexamined.

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Coffee Chat: Kids Sports and the Long Game

| Patti Webb

Yes, we’ve been writing more and more about youth sports. But is it really that big of a surprise, since our kids are now 2-3 years into their teams and activities?

Just like OT, everything is foundational. What they are learning now is going to shape their social skills and identity 5, 10, 20+ years down the road.

Our kids’ sports experiences are vastly different, and they are uncovering a lot of skills and lessons for us parents to dive into. We’re also seeing a lot of bad habits thanks to sports system that’s getting harder to navigate.

Therein lies the conundrum: How long will our kids be on this path before it starts turning into a tearful, stressful, time-sucking money pit? Can we walk the line, or are we already in the vicious cycle?

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The Sheep, the Wolf, and the Sheepdog: Kids and Peers

| Mary Stoffel, MOT, OTR/L

There are three types of people in this world: sheep, wolves, and sheepdogs. – Wayne Kyle, American Sniper

My husband has used this analogy to explain certain types of people to our son ever since he was little. Granted, it is an oversimplified explanation of human nature, but it gets the point across. In our version of the metaphor, sheep are those who cannot defend themselves when harm comes their way, wolves take advantage of their vulnerability, and the sheepdog stands up and protects the sheep. It’s a visual way to tell him to be a decent human and not be a d*ck.

 While our son has long understood this concept, it’s becoming harder for him to follow. In fact, it feels like he’s exhibiting more wolf-like behavior these days. Turns out the shift between sheepdog and wolf mirrors the growing complexity of his social circle and how kids his age are dealing with the next level of social skills and challenges.

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Our Escape Room Playdate Review

| Patti Webb

When we first came up with doing playdate reviews, we hated that we couldn’t find an escape room. For every spot in our area, the minimum age was maybe 10. Fast forward a year or two, and I get a flyer for Escapology at my girls’ field hockey practice. A new space was opening up literally 10 minutes from us. I could’ve kissed the mom (who happened to be the owner) who said that they didn’t quite have a minimum age.

“How could this be?”, you say. KIDS MODE!

Escapology is an immersive, and always private, escape game where players are gathered inside a themed room and must complete their mission before time runs out. Stepping inside a real-life adventure, they must find hidden clues, crack codes, and solve puzzles to make an escape—all in an hour.

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