Last week, a mom on TikTok made a video about the disrespect and harsh criticism she received from her adult child. It turned into a mini rant on how Gen Z kids are entitled and don’t regard their parents with respect after all they’ve done. This video went viral and was stitched many, many times (before it was taken down) from Millennials in particular, explaining their choices to go no-contact with their parents. As difficult as it would be to imagine a no-contact relationship with my girls, my own relationship with my parents makes me feel this can be a completely justifiable move.
I started reading Good Inside with the intent of reviewing it, and be sure this is definitely a book review. But after this video, and in this context, we can very clearly see how Millennial parenting has evolved. We see the need for reflection, not only on how we were raised, but how we intend to raise. We see the importance of providing not only a model for your kid, but also building a mutually-connected relationship with your child through their teen and adult years. We can see how generational trauma has trickled down and how we ourselves need to be cycle breakers.
So with that, here are my takeaways from Good Inside:
Last month, I saw an IG promo for The Parent Test on ABC. It’s a competition-ish show, originally from Australia, on 12 different parenting styles and which one is the most effective.
Each week, four of the 12 families are given two filmed challenges. The other eight sets of parents watch and give their critiques based on how the parents handle their kids in the challenge.
Immediately, we knew we were watching and would most likely be cringing for every single episode. A tweet said it best, “This show is triggering, messy, and impossible not to watch.”
We watched the first episode together and the next with our husbands, and so far we’ve been decently surprised. Here are our initial thoughts:
This Christmas, all of my cousins bought our grandparents Skylight frames. It’s a digital frame with an app that allows people to add photos and video directly. I sent four years’ worth of kids pictures to each of their great-grandparents and Lolo and Lola.
It gave me a chance to go through my phone and sort all of these photos of the girls. Reflecting back on everything we did with them when they were little, and now as school kids, the highlight reel really is heartwarming. That doesn’t mean that our day-to-day is any less challenging or that burnout isn’t perpetually looming on the horizon.
I did accomplish what I said I would do last year: to be more selective with my time and attention. I said no to more things and didn’t overschedule or overcommit. But that’s not just what it’s all about.
In a recent news article about Yale’s viral course on Happiness, it’s not about being time-rich. It’s about actually having fun. While we can spend time recovering from work or winding down, relaxing things are simply just relaxing. They are NOT invigorating.
Full transparency: I signed up for the Yale “Science of Well-Being” course on Coursera right after I finished listening to this article.
So now that we have this context, I’ll jump into my Resolutions.
I saw an IG post a couple months ago about the Sloomoo Institute. When I forwarded it to Mary, I could feel her immediate squirm. But in the description, they use the magic word: sensory.
So, under their reasoning of blog research, we bought tickets and packed up three kids for a slimy field trip.
The Sloomoo Institute is an immersive, sensory-play experience, integrating ASMR and exploratory activities in multiple slime rooms. Our full experience took about two hours and our kids put up a serious fight when we had to leave. Here are some of our highlights:
It’s December and we’re closing out our third year of Childish Advice. We’ve seen a lot of growth in our material and it very much reflects our own personal growth through the last three years of parenting. So we’d like to share our favorite posts of 2022.