Back to School Month: New Beginnings

We’ve been doing Back to School month for three years. In that time, we’ve written about navigating new schools, new friends, and new teachers.

But while open houses and curriculum nights might seem same old-same old at this point, there are always small changes and new starts each academic year. And even if everything about school remained the same, our kids (and ourselves) are constantly growing and changing.

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Gen Z: A Cautionary Tale

A couple weeks ago, a study reported that we are entering a post-literate society: people simply aren’t reading books anymore. The horror!

Before that, there was a trend of managers sharing what their new Gen Z hires were saying/requesting/complaining about in the workplace. For shame!

And lest we forget the article about Gen Z never having completed an entire book during high school before showing up to college. WTF!

Gen Z carries a reputation that’s hard to ignore. Yes, they’re the most socially tolerant, entrepreneurial, tech‑fluent (to an extent), emotionally aware, and scientifically literate generation we’ve ever seen. But, they’re also routinely labeled as entitled, fragile, phone‑obsessed, socially awkward, overly sensitive, and unprepared for adulthood. Those criticisms show up everywhere, especially in headlines about academic struggles, resilience gaps, and workforce readiness. But context matters.

As we’ve been told many times, Gen Z’s identity has been shaped by an always‑on digital landscape, rising mental‑health challenges, and a level of societal instability no previous generation faced at the same age. Many of the behaviors older generations interpret as weakness or entitlement are actually signs of a generation growing up under unprecedented pressure. And that’s exactly why Gen Z has become a warning for parents raising younger kids today.

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Joyride, Part 2: Riding a Bike

“I think it’s also one of those quintessential kid activities that parents actually look forward to teaching.”
Oh, how young and naïve we were three years ago

My girls had been riding their first bikes (with training wheels) for about 3 years. Since our neighborhood is on a steep hillside, the girls keep the bikes at their grandparents’ house where it’s flatter and where they would have more space to ride. They rode them heavily; growing out of helmets, raising seats, and patching tires. But for me and Troy, the bikes were a bit out of sight, out of mind.

We had the intention of taking the training wheels off over Spring Break when they were around 5 ½. That got pushed off until the summer, and then another Spring Break passed. Finally, Aeris grew out of the entire bike, knees hitting the handlebars. It was time to buy a new bike, thus no more training wheels.

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Go with the Flow: The Just-Right Challenge

Kids can seem allergic to focus when it’s something we need them to do: homework, chores, anything that feels like a requirement rather than a choice. And yet, that very same child who can’t stay with a worksheet for five minutes will suddenly spend an entire afternoon perfecting a dance routine, building an elaborate Lego world, painting with total intensity, or disappearing into a book.

In those moments, we unintentionally play the “bad guy,” interrupting the very focus we wish they had during everything else. That kind of deep, effortless engagement is the beginning of what psychologists call flow.

The term flow was coined by psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi (Me-high Cheek-sent-me-high-ee), who introduced it in 1975 through his research on artists, athletes, and other deeply absorbed performers. He wanted to understand why people feel their best when they’re fully immersed in something. Through thousands of interviews and years of experience sampling studies, he found a clear pattern: people felt their greatest focus, enjoyment, and meaning when the challenge of a task matched their skill. Ergo, flow.

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Child(ish) Review: Toy Story 5

I’ll be honest, I never really got into the Toy Story franchise. I know Woody, Buzz, and Jessie are beloved icons, but I just wasn’t into sitting down and watching the movies when they came out, and even now as a parent. So when Patti told me Toy Story 5 was coming out and I casually mentioned that I was indifferent, the gasp she let out was audible. For reference, the first Toy Story came out when we were 10.

But then the Toy Story 5 trailer dropped, Lilypad appeared on screen, and suddenly I was fully invested. In this installment, Bonnie is introduced to a new high‑tech tablet which completely disrupts the balance of playtime, forcing Jessie, Bullseye, Buzz, Woody and the rest of the gang to confront what it means to matter to a child in a digital age.

Toy Story 5 is essentially a child‑development case study wrapped in a Pixar movie. The film directly tackles themes that map onto core developmental domains: social-emotional growth, imaginative play, peer relationships, technology use, and the psychological experience of being “enough.”

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