Tone of Voice and Parenting

You know when you tell your kids to do something repeatedly and it falls on deaf ears. And then you end up yelling at them because you’re at your wits end? Then how about when your spouse says the exact same thing and they do it right away? Okay, great. I’m not the only one.

While my children appreciate my animated vocals during play or a soothing one when they need a cuddle, they definitely don’t hear my tone as one of authority unless I’m screaming to the top of my lungs. This got me thinking about how kids interpret tone of voice.

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Child(ish) Reads: Underestimated: The Power and Wisdom of Teenage Girls

I jumped on this book so fast.

Luckily, it has a nice little fit for Tuesday’s Throwback post on kids developing Autonomy.  So let’s connect the two, while I share my review and takeaways.

Underestimated: The Wisdom and Power of Teenage Girls by Chelsey Goodan.

Chelsey Goodan has been an academic tutor and mentor for sixteen years, with a particular emphasis on the empowerment of teenage girls. She speaks regularly to audiences about gender justice, conducts workshops, and coaches parents on how to better understand and connect with their daughters. For this book, she compiles years of working with girls one-on-one and the common threads she has seen in their experience.

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Money-Driven: Kids and Money Management

Welcome back to #throwbackmonth! For those not familiar, to get us back into the blog-writing groove for the month of July, we pick a past post each week to spotlight. Then we do a deeper dive on that topic to revisit the content and talk about some other things that may be related. On Tuesday, we picked our double post on Introducing Chores and Chores by Age.


When my son first started showing interest in helping around the house, I was ecstatic. Awesome, he wants to do chores. That means he’ll ALWAYS want to do chores. Haha, silly me.

Now that he’s 7, he groans when he’s reminded of his duties. Although he understands that chores are a part of his daily contribution to the household, he’d obviously much prefer to be doing something (anything) else. While research shows that chores provide positive outcomes for kids (like autonomy, self-control, empathy, and overall success), it can be difficult to get them to participate and WANT to do it. Jennifer Aniston wants you to WANT to do the dishes….

One motivator that we are all familiar with is paying our children for their hard work (aka an allowance). I’m sure we’ve all received payment for doing good deeds around the house, from doing dishes to maintaining a tidy bedroom. In fact, a survey conducted by the American Institute of CPAs found that 4 out of 5 adults say receiving an allowance taught them financial responsibility. But are money incentives really teaching responsibility? Yes, but not in the way you’d think.

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Child(ish) Review: Inside Out 2

When we first saw the trailer for Inside Out 2, we knew we had to get it on the blog ASAP. From the Whole-Brain Child to executive function, our posts cover a lot of a child’s emotional development as well as physical development. So we made it a movie night and now are bringing you our first actual Child(ish) movie review.

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Our Muddy Kids Review

Technically, this isn’t a play date. I was so excited that I found a mud race that our kids could participate in. Unfortunately, it fell right on Mary’s 10th wedding anniversary. That’s fine, I’ll be a family activity review. Then the morning of the race, Z was sick with a fever. So the family outing became a Mom and Aeris day.

Muddy Kids is open to families and kids aged 5-17, so we were right at the minimum line. They also have a version called the Muddy Princess that is women only. Kids must have a parent to register, and a parent must race as well if their runner is under 16 years old.

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