From rough housing to name calling and everything in between, children showcase a spectrum of aggression. While it may be for fun, it can be downright vicious in certain circumstances. Babies start showing these behaviors around 8-12 months of age to express their frustrations; but it starts to diminish when they learn appropriate means to express and acquire their wants/needs. However, school-aged children can take it to another level.
Continue readingWhen we first came up with doing playdate reviews, we hated that we couldn’t find an escape room. For every spot in our area, the minimum age was maybe 10. Fast forward a year or two, and I get a flyer for Escapology at my girls’ field hockey practice. A new space was opening up literally 10 minutes from us. I could’ve kissed the mom (who happened to be the owner) who said that they didn’t quite have a minimum age.
“How could this be?”, you say. KIDS MODE!
Escapology is an immersive, and always private, escape game where players are gathered inside a themed room and must complete their mission before time runs out. Stepping inside a real-life adventure, they must find hidden clues, crack codes, and solve puzzles to make an escape—all in an hour.
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Piggybacking off of Tuesday’s post, I wanted to chat a bit about managing our kids and their sports commitments. Growing up, I was always under the impression that kids just did sports as their school allowed. Most elementary schools don’t have sports teams, so any city teams or intramural prior to Interscholastic sports was just for fun. The real competition was when you made the school team and started playing other schools.
When my little sister hit 7-8 years old, my dad signed her up for softball. As a previous baseball/softball player himself, he of course was all in and she was on travel teams from then on. Practices and games became a priority, she didn’t really try any other sports, and I could tell this started a bit of a power shift in their house (I was already out of college and on my own). In addition to my sister playing, my dad was also assistant coaching and travel coordinating. It seemed like softball became much more important than rest or time with family. Eventually, my sister got recruited to play softball at a private high school and my parents moved states to accommodate it. She won multiple State Championships, and then COVID happened her senior year. No last season. No college ball.
I know this took it to the next level, but that doesn’t mean this type of commitment to kids sports isn’t common.
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When we first enrolled my son in soccer, we wanted to introduce him to a sport with structure and rules. While it was all fun and games in the beginning (he really liked running around and playing with friends), the expectations shifted from just “having fun” to peers yelling, “Stoffel! Learn to kick the ball!”
By the end of his second season, he told me he didn’t like playing anymore. From people charging at him when he had the ball to multiple teammates screaming at him to pass the ball, the pressure was a bit more than he wanted to handle. That was fine by us. He’s now in his third year of baseball and has been enjoying it much better. The nature of the sport operates at a slower pace and each player must equally contribute both offensively and defensively, without multiple people in his face to make a play.
As our kids get more involved in youth sports, the expectations change. Aside from learning how to be a team player and to appropriately win/lose/enjoy the game, they are now also expected to practice on and off the field and remain on task for at least an hour (and that’s after a full-day of school). Some practices and games may be late afternoon or evening, interfering with daily dinner time and sleep schedules. And, it only gets later and longer as our kids age and advance their skills and commitment.
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I’m not gonna lie, completing this ADHD certification and writing these posts has driven me down a rabbit hole. “Do I have ADHD? Does my son have ADHD?”
While he is a 7-year-old, his past teachers have mentioned focus issues and recently, he’s been forgetting items to either take to school or bring back home. Is this something I need to be concerned about or is this just an age-appropriate phase?
For Patti, ADHD runs in her family. So even though she does not have a diagnosis, she has been on the lookout for flags since the beginning. You can imagine how these coffee chats have gone between us…
If you suspect your child’s inattention or impulsivity may be more than the norm, or you notice that it’s affecting parts of their daily routine, here’s what you can do.
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