child development

M is for Montessori

| Mary Stoffel, MOT, OTR/L

When I was 5, my parents enrolled me in a Montessori program. At that age, you obviously don’t grasp the difference between that and a typical classroom, but I remember the long reading periods and the one‑on‑one lessons. Teachers used hands‑on materials, games, and toys to introduce academic concepts.

Once I entered elementary school, my learning experience shifted dramatically. Classes became structured, centering around worksheets, whole‑group instruction, and a set schedule. Independent, self‑paced learning was rare, and the day revolved around the teacher directing the entire class at once.

As a parent, I’ve chosen the traditional route for my own kids, but several friends have opted for Montessori programs instead and have had a wide range of experiences. It made me curious: What exactly defines Montessori education today, and why do some families swear by it while others move on?

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Child(ish) Reads: Never Enough

| Patti Webb

This book came out three years ago. I didn’t jump to review it because at the time, our kids were only 5. That’s a bit young to start worrying about achievement culture. Now, even though high school and applying to colleges are far off, there are still big parts of this book that speak to child development; both academically and personally.

The book also gives more nuance and research to our education system, and sheds more light on that pesky Gen Z: Cautionary Tale thing. It’s a great book to start your school year.

Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-and What We Can Do About It by Jennifer Breheny Wallace.

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Back to School Month: New Beginnings

| Mary Stoffel, MOT, OTR/L

We’ve been doing Back to School month for three years. In that time, we’ve written about navigating new schools, new friends, and new teachers.

But while open houses and curriculum nights might seem same old-same old at this point, there are always small changes and new starts each academic year. And even if everything about school remained the same, our kids (and ourselves) are constantly growing and changing.

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Gen Z: A Cautionary Tale

| Mary Stoffel, MOT, OTR/L

A couple weeks ago, a study reported that we are entering a post-literate society: people simply aren’t reading books anymore. The horror!

Before that, there was a trend of managers sharing what their new Gen Z hires were saying/requesting/complaining about in the workplace. For shame!

And lest we forget the article about Gen Z never having completed an entire book during high school before showing up to college. WTF!

Gen Z carries a reputation that’s hard to ignore. Yes, they’re the most socially tolerant, entrepreneurial, tech‑fluent (to an extent), emotionally aware, and scientifically literate generation we’ve ever seen. But, they’re also routinely labeled as entitled, fragile, phone‑obsessed, socially awkward, overly sensitive, and unprepared for adulthood. Those criticisms show up everywhere, especially in headlines about academic struggles, resilience gaps, and workforce readiness. But context matters.

As we’ve been told many times, Gen Z’s identity has been shaped by an always‑on digital landscape, rising mental‑health challenges, and a level of societal instability no previous generation faced at the same age. Many of the behaviors older generations interpret as weakness or entitlement are actually signs of a generation growing up under unprecedented pressure. And that’s exactly why Gen Z has become a warning for parents raising younger kids today.

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Go with the Flow: The Just-Right Challenge

| Mary Stoffel, MOT, OTR/L

Kids can seem allergic to focus when it’s something we need them to do: homework, chores, anything that feels like a requirement rather than a choice. And yet, that very same child who can’t stay with a worksheet for five minutes will suddenly spend an entire afternoon perfecting a dance routine, building an elaborate Lego world, painting with total intensity, or disappearing into a book.

In those moments, we unintentionally play the “bad guy,” interrupting the very focus we wish they had during everything else. That kind of deep, effortless engagement is the beginning of what psychologists call flow.

The term flow was coined by psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi (Me-high Cheek-sent-me-high-ee), who introduced it in 1975 through his research on artists, athletes, and other deeply absorbed performers. He wanted to understand why people feel their best when they’re fully immersed in something. Through thousands of interviews and years of experience sampling studies, he found a clear pattern: people felt their greatest focus, enjoyment, and meaning when the challenge of a task matched their skill. Ergo, flow.

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